I am currently 51 years old. Whenever I was younger I had a boyrfriend who proposed to me. Different circumstances caused us to not be together. Over the course of the years I married and divorced a few times, but never had feelings for any of them like him. I thought about him often and feel like he was my one true love.

When I went to bed thursday night I had a dream about him. We were talking about old times and it felt so surreal. I woke up at four in the morning crying my eyes out.

I was telling my daughter about the dream about 7:30. that same morning. The news came on at 8 and it had said that he had died in a motorcycle accident Thursday at 6:15. I am in complete shock!

I never have dreams, or at least remember I do. I did not go to bed with him on my mind. A friend told me maybe it was he was of saying a final goodbye. Can someone please help me in trying to interpret this dream. I have a heavy heart and feel like I can't let go...

Also, after finding all of this out, someone told me he had seperated from his wife after 32 years. I feel like I missed my chance to rekindle what we had together...

There is really no way to know if he was saying a final goodbye to you.

There is no point in wondering if you missed your final chance to rekindle things with him. You can't change the past. You can ask yourself why he didn't try to contact you after he had separated from his wife.

I'm guessing that you have not kept in contact with him, since you didn't know that he had separated. Why didn't you stay in touch with each other as friends, if you had such a strong connection with each other.

You said he died on Thursday. How many days after that did you have the dream? Was it the next day?

Dreams, and even waking visions, about visits from the about-to-die or recently dead are not as uncommon as many would like to believe. Many others have had experiences like yours. In what manner are they real? We can theorize all we want; but we simply don't know.

I would simply like to add to Marcia's response that, if he did indeed come to say goodbye, he certainly did not intend to plunge you into guilt and regret. It was a loving gesture. Please take it as such.

We can all look back on choices not made, roads not taken; but in the end we must all walk the road we're on and deal with today's choices and choices yet to be made. I'm sure he would wish you only the best in this. Treasure his memory; but don't beat yourself up for what's over. He wouldn't want you to.