In my dream, I am sitting somewhere that is full of people, and I am specifically sitting at a long table with a girl I met at a concert. The room itself reminded me of a large mess hall? In real life, she has a well-defined crush on the leader singer of a band we both like (& have met on numerous occasions). The band itself has a decent, yet small, fanbase, & are signed to a label, but have nowhere near a large celebrity status and are likely unrecognizable to most people. However, in the dream, I make note of seeing the members enter the area & standing near the end of our long table. I make the decision to approach them (likely on behalf of the the other girl). As I approach them, I greet them and they acknowledge me in a way that lets me know they do indeed remember me from past encounters (which I think they do, in real life - because I see them regularly). For instance, one of the members said it was good to see me again. As I do this, I see my favorite member of the group ("J" - who tends to be the most reserved & shy at first; who I have a crush on), and it somehow progresses to me walking away from the table with "J", kind of linking arms - while I make a weird excited expression to some unknown girl back at the table. The dream continues to progress and he & I are walking hand-in-hand. From what I remember, he mentions twitter & not so "many" people following his so it's easy to find my account in his followers. He also implies he can't follow me on twitter because other female fans/followers might see, so I suggest he make another private account so we can communicate via twitter. He basically says no (in a nice way, I guess - since it doesn't seem to matter much to me). Instead, he says he'll have to "moderate" his normal account. We continue to walk & hold hands like any normal couple, but it seems that we are now in Vietnam (where my parents are from). And he tells me to follow him, he has a surprise (all while we're walking/holding hands). I am a bit weary of where he wants to take me, as it seems to be in the direction of the men's restroom. Instead, he pulls me into a room to the side of the direction of the men's room. Inside this room was what was similar to a jewelry case with "cakes" inside - although they dont look like our standard breaded cakes & these were designed as castles...almost looking like paper instead. In the dream, I also think I see my mother & brother in the room & I look around for them to show my brother I was with "J" - who my brother knows of & has met, as well. However, I do not see them. "J" tells me to choose any of the "cakes" I want. I decline, however. The dream progresses a bit more and we are still holding hands, now walking elsewhere (but still in the same general area)...when his brother approaches us. His brother (who is also in the band; and I also approached at the beginning of the dream) also happens to be standing near a couple of motorcycles - (with another individual already on one) & tells him that they have to go to Ohio for a bit. In my dream, I assume that the brother was just informing "J" that he was leaving, but it turns out, "J" would be leaving as well. So me & the guy "say goodbye" (still holding hands, but I'm standing in front of him now). He basically tells me they'll be back tomorrow & he'll see me for a bit then before they leave (I assume the band was supposed to leave for their next tour date). In the dream, I hope for him to kiss me goodbye on the cheek, but he doesn't. Instead, we hug, and I know he did not kiss me because of him trying to keep anyone from the band's fan base from seeing. After this, I begin to leave myself and walk in the opposite direction of where he was. Truth is, I would normally chalk this up to a standard "celebrity" crush that manifested itself into my dreams, but I felt such a sense of calm & comfort throughout the dream. Even while I've had dreams that included other "celeb" crushes before, I was (for the most part) another individual and I did not feel anything similar to this feeling of comfort. As well, I have also had a dream in the past where it was made out that he & I had this strong "epic love"//"true love" relationship - where he was "it" for me. And like I said, I see him & his band pretty regularly even though they do tour, but I just had dinner with them this past week & "J" ended up seeing beside me when he arrived - so this may be a large reason why I had this dream (because I just saw him recently), but I would still like to see if any of you could me and analyze what my dream may mean? Overall, I would say the hand-holding and sense of calm & comfort was a large part of the dream.
Did you still have that feeling of comfort after he told you he was leaving, or did his telling you make you upset? This dream could have to do with changes going on in your life and a need to have something to make you feel secure while these changes are going on.
To be honest, I don't remember being too upset, or even really feeling any feeling besides resolution after he left & I left myself. It was very...movie-like.
The beginning part of the dream, where the members of the band let you know that they already know you, seems to be your unconscious saying that no matter what you go through in life, you are still the same person. When you are holding hands with your crush, it's partly just a normal crush dream (wish fulfillment) but I think he also represents a part of yourself that makes you feel safe. I think the part about him worrying about other fans seeing him following you on twitter has to do with you worrying about other people finding out your deepest feelings about things. You're worried about making yourself vulnerable. Going back to Vietnam where your parents are from could have to do with thinking about your past or the values you were raised with. The jewelry case with cakes that look like castles sound like they represent your wishes for the future. It's interesting that you think you are going to the men's restroom first - kind of like it's hard for you to accept that you could wish for something good. However, the idea of the cakes almost looking like paper makes me think that part of you feels like the things you want will never become real. It sounds like a part of you is afraid that you won't be able to achieve what you want (maybe self esteem issues?) That could be why you don't take any of the cakes for yourself. I think the whole dream has to do with your feelings about changes in your life and about your insecurities. I think the feeling of comfort comes from a part of you that knows you will be OK.
Thank you for the more in-depth insight, Marcia. I appreciate it. I actually tend to have a bit of self-esteem issues and do have insecurities about myself. But in general, I felt like your response gave me a better idea of what the dream could have likely meant. Again, thank you for taking the time to read my post and provide your insight.